Seven: Surround Yourself with Wise Counsel

Your friends can be a good predictor of your success not only in this world but, in the eternal as well.

It’s actually been said quite often that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

This is a concept that I personally have taken rather seriously over the years, and make sure that the people I’m in engaging with on a regular basis are men I’d like to personally model my life after.

The bible talks repeatedly on just this topic, and we know based on our past devotions that when the bible repeats topics, they’re probably important to listen to.

Surround yourself with wise counsel long

“Without counsel, plans fail, but with many advisers, they succeed.” – Proverbs 15:22

“Where no counsel [is], the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors [there is] safety.” – Proverbs 11:14

Although it may seem important to simply surround yourself with people, I believe that ultimately the importance falls on the type of people you surround yourself with.

People who share your goals and have your best interest at heart. People who want to see you succeed and will call you out when you’re doing things you shouldn’t.

Here are  a few traits I look for in deciding who to allow into my inner circle:

  • First and foremost, has a longing for the things of the Lord.
  • Is not selfish and wants those around them to succeed.
  • They speak life into others.
  • Pays attention to the little things (showing up on time, keeps their word, etc.)

Now, I don’t by any means want you to think you shouldn’t spend any time with people who don’t meet these criteria. That would not be Christ-like.

However, if we base our lives on how Christ lived as we should, we see a model for friendship.

Jesus had a total of 12 disciples, men who he spent the majority of His time with.

However, Jesus invested even more of his time into 3 of the apostles than any of the others. Jesus understood and wanted to show us that you can’t give your time to EVERYONE. In fact, often times you will only be able to give your time to a select few and as such you should invest as much as possible into those people.

As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. “Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” At once they left their nets and followed him.” – Matthew 4:18-22

Think about who your close friends are. Are you spending most of your time in building them up and learning from them, or is it spent haphazardly with no real motives?

Yours in Ambition,

Cooper Mitchell

Author Cooper Mitchell

Hello, I'm Cooper. I am the President of Dane Financial, LLC. I specialize in helping Christians who have ambition prepare for life through Comprehensive Financial Planning and Investment Management. When I'm not doing financial planning, you can find me focusing on other entrepreneurial pursuits, spending time with my beautiful Wife, worshipping Christ, blogging, lifting (somewhat) heavy weights, and reading non-fiction.

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